I am in a very unhappy marriage. It did not start out that way two years ago, but it has developed into a sad existence for me. I married my husband because of his attention to me, his romantic letters and poems, and he was good to me.

Two years later, there is no romance, no communication, no sex, and everything seems to be split down the middle, you know, his and mine, there is no "US" in this union. What can I provide or bring into the marriage, and his possessions are the only two things he thinks or cares about. He is selfish about most of his things, he has a will and will not show it to me.

Now there is this big fight about the tax return. He thinks it should go into his needs, I think it should go into the common household , I can't even get him to split it down the middle 50/50. I don't see spending anymore time in this love-less marriage. I have tried marriage counseling, he will not go, nothing is working. I can tell he is unhappy, we are two people not in love and living under the same roof. Help!!

Dear 50/50

I wonder if this man just looks at you as an asset. He puts a lot of stock into what you can bring, earn or provide into the marriage. In the beginning, he must have had a different idea of you, than what you turned out to be in reality over time.

His obsession with the mine and yours leads me to think that you two will never be the "US" you referred to. His was an investment in time, and when your value did not go up, he lost interest. He does not want to go to counseling, because he does not want to save the marriage. His refusal to show you his will is a tell-tell sign he is not vested in this marriage. It's a one way ride.

You only have two years with this man. Count your blessings, it could have been far worse, you did not mention any alcohol or physical abuse so I assume you don't have that to deal with. It seems a call to an attorney is in order on this one.

Best of luck.

Michael