I am a 31-year-old woman who recently moved to a new city that is four hours away from my hometown.  With my new job, I do a fair amount of traveling to a city in the Midwest.

Last week, I was in that midwestern city and decided to go out to a nightclub down the street from my hotel.  It was not a meat market bar by any stretch of the imagination. I was just lonely and thought since I am going to be spending a decent amount of time in the area, it would be a good opportunity to make some friends. I met a group of people (both men and women) who were about my age who were nice and friendly. I really hit it off with one of the guys who was there.  He is 30 and we just really got along great.  We really enjoyed talking to each other and there was definitely a physical attraction, as well.

I mentioned to the group that several of my friends from home had gone to another nightclub in that city, they said was a lot of fun. I asked them if they wanted to go.  The other folks said they needed to call it a night, but the fellow that I was talking to volunteered to take me.  We went out and had a great time.  We really connected on a mental and emotional level.  We even started talking about the benefits and the pitfalls of beginning a long-distance romance.

Eventually, we ended up going to my hotel room.  He spent the night, but nothing happened other than some pretty passionate kisses.  We slept fully clothed and snuggled in the bed, that was it.

He asked for my phone number and e-mail address and said he would e-mail or call the next day.  I know that he was going out of town on business himself; however, I still have not heard anything.

I really like him.  He is someone that I would like in my life, as a friend, if not as a boyfriend.  It really makes me sad because I do not remember a time that I have connected so easily with someone.

My question is, should I call or e-mail him.  He gave me his business card with that information included.

Waiting
 

Dear Waiting,

OK Miss Waiting, or should I just call you lucky! You are extremely fortunate that your new friend, let’s call him, “Sam” was not the cities number one wanted stalker. Here you are in a new city and your taking complete strangers to your hotel room. What were you thinking?? In this day and age you can never be too safe especially when it comes to meeting someone. I am sure that you have given your actions some time to settle in, and hope you never repeat this little adventure again.  Can you see how dangerous this was??? I hope so. Consider this your verbal spanking.

Well, you survived the night and now you are wondering what to do and why he has not called you by now. There are a dozen reasons why men do not call women they meet and this will in all likelihood go down as a mystery. However, here are a few real possibilities to consider. 1. He lost your number and has no way of reaching you. 2, He is still on his trip and wants to wait to get back home and then he will call you. 3. He met someone else.  4. He was a one-night fling and has no intention of calling. 5. He is already in another involved relationship and was just “out on the town having fun” etc.

I know this does not help you but you can take an active roll in this little love story and you mat get an answer. DO NOT CALL HIM; send him a little e-mail note saying you enjoyed meeting him and you would like to see him again when he is in town. That’s it. The proverbial ball is in his court and you will just have to wait. With a little luck you might hear something or you may have to move on. Please act a little more responsible next time.

Best of luck

Michael
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